I am 13 and I have been wetting the bed lately, my mom found out and told me i have to wear diapers?
Aug 12, 2010 in
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we talked to my doctor who gave us some medicine and said it should stop but it hasnt!! My mom is being un-reasonable and changing my diapers. it is so mean and i want it to stop……help please!
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48 comments
armywife on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
first of all, don’t feel bad about wetting the bed. It happens to children, even those going through puberty. you will outgrow it one day, probably soon. my son had similar problems until he was 12ish, doc gave him some medicine (sorry don’t remember what it’s called, he’s 22 now) and it helped a lot, though it caused constipation.
there are a few things you can do for yourself:
don’t drink any liquid before you go to sleep.
make sure you empty your bladder (pee) right before you go to bed
take the medicine just like the doctor told you to do and give it a chance to work. often times it can take 3 weeks or more for the medicine to become completely effective
there is a product made for older kids in your situation, they are called "good nites" or similar to that. if you are too big for them, you can use what the old folks use, called "depends".
and tell your mom that this mom said to stop behaving like an immature school yard bully! this is not something that needs humiliation to control. it is a medical issue and there is not anything you can do about it until it resolves itself.
good luck kiddo!
Lizzi on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Go to the bathroom b4 bed. it’s normal don’t worry. <3
bambammc24 on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Woah….. Hurray for huggies
Jay J on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
You’re old enough to change your own diapers. Tell her that.
Heather M on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
oh my god. thats so wierd. your moms making you wear DIAPERS?!
jeez. tell her that you want to go back to the doctor! you probably just have bladder control problems.
tell ur doctor that the medicine didnt work and have them prescribe something else.
Amanda on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
awwww.
I love dipers!
Michaela M on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
except the facts. i would i see no bad in it. Its apart of life.
jassi k on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
i think u having period. ask ur mom abt she will know
beaming_at_you on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
D: That sucks.
How about you don’t drink anything after 5 PM.
Go to the bathroom before bed.
Set your alarm to wake you up at the middle of the night.
shark . on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Just give it some times and do what the doctor says
magicgee on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Tell your mom " Don’t be so harsh on me when you Old I’ll let you change your Dypers by yourself"
Day of Black Sun on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Okay, saying prayers to "God" isn’t going to help so settle this with common sense and don’t listen to these other idiots. Go to the bathroom as much as you can during the day, don’t try and hold it in at all, even if you don’t think you have to go, TRY. Don’t drink after about 6 pm, depending on when you go to bed. Keep taking the medicine for at least 3 weeks to let it kick it. Medicine does not work right away. As far as the diaper thing, you have a say in that, your 13 years old, and your mom has absoloutly no right to do that. Refuse. Honestly, I wouldn’t worry about wearing diapers. Put a plastic sheet over your matress and plastic coverings on your pillows. If you pee, then that’s fine, it can be washed. Wait a week, and then on Sunday, wash your sheets for the next week.
ched on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
You’ve done the embarassing part speaking to a doctor, tell her you dont want to wear them, get an ulternative like one of those sheets that dont wet the mattress
thissilverheart on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Keep taking the medicine….try to go to the bathroom before you go to bed and avoid drinking liquids before you go to bed.
As far as you wearing diapers…thats kind of low…I would never make my 13 year old wear diapers….there are pads you can put down on the bed that will work.
answer machine on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
can’t you change your own diaper? thats gross.
♥im such a surfer♥ on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
ok, well, thats NOTHING 2 be embarrassed about!! and if u have sumthing 2 drink before bed, then make sure u go 2 the bathroom BEFORE u go to bed so that u dont wet the bed….
hope that helped!
lindajune on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Its a common problem, it will go away in time.
In the meantime, don’t drink anything before bed, and go to the bathroom before you go to bed.
Tell yourself that you will wake up and go to the bathroom in the night if you need to.
Desi 45 on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
ummmm how and my sis is 21 and she still wets her bed when she is sleeping
Mariah on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
O.o………………….. Go to the bathroom before you go to sleep? ……….you seriously wet the bed?
Dream Maker on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
I think that is awful too! Maybe she should take u to another doctor to get a second opionion!!!! Poor baby, hang in there and say your prayers every nite that God will help u overcome this problem!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why ask me? on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Tell her you want depends they are diapers for adults that way you can feel all grown up.
Brie on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Tell her that your not an invalid, and that you can chage your own diapers. The issue you’re having, is at night, which in not under your control. You’re big enough to change them yourself. Tell her that you appreciate her help, but it’s embarassing for her to do this, that she’s a great mom for wanting to help, but you have it covered.
heartsstarshearts on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
yea um go to the bathroom before bed and dont drink anything before you go to sleep
COSMOgirl on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
if u dont drink water during the hour before u go to bed, and use te bathroom before u do, it’ll probably stop
marcopolo on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
dude anything but diapers
remember ur 13 not 3
teesha on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
set you alarm clock for the time you think you are peeing and try that to see if you can get in the habit of getting up when you have to go
monkey on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
i dont know what to tell you…
but my cousin has the same problem,and his close to your own age so your not alone….
:)
Melissa on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
hmm well dont let her change you diapers. You can do it yourself. You should go to the doctor again and tell him that it hasnt stopped
a7x_lil_babe666 on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
its normal! just b4 u go 2 bed ,dont drink any thing.like an hour b4…and make sure u go 2 the bathroom b4 bed even if u dont have 2 go..try!,,,,and y is ur mm changing ur diapers? thats wrong ur old enough and u got 2 tell her that! she shuldnt have 2 treat u like a baby ur whole life!
SanSan(: on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Go to the bathroom before bed and don’t drink as much around your bed time. Also, maybe you just have bladder problem. I recommend you go to a doctor trained in the field.
Daniel J on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
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Kandi on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
You need to go back to the doctor and tell them, they’ll have to treat you with a different type of medicine. Good luck =)
David T on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
This is a common problem a lot of people have. Tell her enough with the diapers. It could be what you eat or drink in the evening. If you drink a lot of pop I would suggest you stop at 4 p.m. to allow the sugar to work through your system.
Set an alarm clock for every two hours and when it goes off to do the bathroom gig and then set it for another two hours.
If you haven’t been wetting the bed for some time, there may be other issues at hand.
Sandy on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Try not drinking water or anything b 4 u go to bed and try to make yourself get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom! First try talking to ur mom and tell her how u feel,this may sound stupid but sometimes u just need to do it..tell her that u r old enough not to wear diapers and that u are going to try to fix it on ur own and that she should just give u a chance.
sarahbabyy18 on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
umm, well i think you can change the diapers yourself.
thats a little weird.
Confused Elle 428 on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Listen ,you may feel embarrassed but really, is it that dumb, like I mean your definitely not the only person in the world what this has happened to, right. just remember to keep an eye on what your eating before bed and go to the bathroom too.
If you eat sugary foods you could have nightmares which might make you scared, causing you to………. you know.
stumpymosha on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Surely that is child abuse, I’m pretty sure it is where I come from. This should definitely not be allowed to be happening. You can buy pull ups in larger sizes now so there is no need to be wearing diapers. There is a number you can ring in England, it’s called child line, there must be an equivalent where you are. If there is, ring it & ask them if they think what your mom is doing is wrong because in my opinion, it should be against the law.
Nicole S on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
well the obvious thing to do is to go to the doctors again because the medicine obviousley aint working!!
tell your mom that you don’t have to wear diapers you could just get one of those plastic sheet things for your bed or something, or atleast tell her you can change them your diapers on your own!!
James on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
It could be a urine infection or something like that I guess. The doc might have given you antibiotics.
If your doctor didnt suggest wearing diapers then it isnt fair your mother insisting on you wearing them and certainly shouldnt be changing you.
Tell a teacher at school whats going on ( one you can trust ) or your school counsellor.
Its mental abuse what your mom is doing and if she is behaving like that then it aint going to stop your bedwetting, more likely make it worse.
Dont drink too much before you go to bed and lay off the alcohol if you have been drinking.
If you are having other issues, such as bullying or other types of abuse from your parents, dont delay to tell a teacher you trust or your school counsellor – they wont think you are silly, its their job.
EBABY on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
I DON’T THINK YOUR MOM SHOULD BE SO HARD ON YOU.IT IS PROBALY JUST YOUR YOUR BLADDER TRYING TO TELL SOMETHING IS GOING WRONG.IT MAYBE NEED TO BE CHECKED OUT.
Toffy on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Call your Doctor and tell them what your Mom is doing. She shouldn’t be changing your diapers at 13. Bedwetting isnt uncommon. Watch your fluid intake 3-4 hours before you go to bed. Avoid any liquids 1 1/2 hours before you go to bed. Also, avoid salty things…like chips or bacon 3-4 hours before bedtime…that makes you thirsty. Have your Mom get you up 1 1/2 hrs after you go to bed to use the bathroom. These things will help also, tell yourself the last thing before you fall asleep that you aren’t going to wet the bed. I know this works for me….When I want to be up in the morning at a certain time, and the last thing I repeat in my mind is wake up at 5am, over and over and over. IT WORKS….and often I am up before the alarm. Cant hurt to try….
Charles S on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Do not drink anything after supper time. Relieve yourself before going to bed. Set your alarm clock to wake you every 4 hours and go use the toilet. Set it for every 2 hours if you still wet the bed. Change your diapers yourself. Your mom is doing it because she is embarrassed and frustrated with you. She is hoping the embarrassment you experience with her changing your diapers will make you stop this bed wetting.
Again, limit your fluid intake between supper time and bed time.
david on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
It’s actually not as uncommon as you might think. "Bedwetting" is hereditary, meaning that a relative of your’s (possibly one of you parents, uncles/aunts, grandparents) had the same problem when they were kids. It occurs due to a couple of reasons / theories. One reason is that children cannot feel their bladder when their waking state / tone is too low. Another theory is when kids dream about actually "going" in front of a toilet in their dreams, their muscles tend to twitch (instead of remaining immobile) causing the child to urinate in reality.
I would advise you not to take medication because most children actually stop urinating during their sleep without taking any medicines or undergoing treatment. Two of my cousins had this problem and it eventually went away as they grew older.
Don’t let others make you feel alone or bad about yourself since a lot of kids have it too. Probably one or more of your friends at school have the same problem but they do not share it for obvious reasons. Hell, maybe even your "crush" has it.
No worries =)
Damocles on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
You have a medical problem. Hopefully the medicine will work eventually (along with limiting what you drink starting about 3 hours before bed time).
It can be damaging to the mattress and bed, so I can see why your mom is thinking if you are not able to control it, at least she won’t have to keep replacing your bedding.
Perhaps, unfortunately, she really thinks that you do have control and that forcing you to wear the diapers will embarass you into controlling it.
I suggest you do 2 things. Write her a letter (so you can make your case without being interrupted). You want to explain how you honestly do not know how to control the bed wetting and that you really want it to stop too. Let her know that you are willing to do whatever it takes to stop it. Secondly, accept the ‘diapers’, willingly. Let her know that you are not happy about it, but that you understand what a problem it causes for her, and that you are willing to do this for her until the problem can be resolved.
When she knows that you are really trying your hardest, she is less likey to suggest things that are punaitive.
Human on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
How does it make you feel to wake up, in a urine soaked bed?
As long as you wear them at night, none of your friends will know and your mother will be off your back!
There’s nothing wrong with it, just stop doing it and your mother will be easier to convince, otherwise!
And don’t tell your friends!
Good Luck!
outofahat2 on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Lizy, this is not as uncommon as you think. My daughter, although she doesn’t wet the bed, used to not get enough sleep because she would have to get up several times a night to go.
Her doctor and I advised her to not drink after 8:00 at night, and to be sure to go before bed. That helped her.
Please explore some information such as the site: http://www.dryatnight.com/ and the book: Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness: A Practical Guide for Parents of Children with Bedwetting (Paperback). For some medical descriptions and treatments see: http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/disorders/bedwetting.shtml
Your mom thinks she is doing the right thing, but it is actually cruel and embarassing for her to be the one changing YOU. YOU are the one in charge by using it as an active approach to treating and recovering from your bedwetting, and you may wish to use the "diapers" for your own peace of mind and don’t think of them as punishment, but you are THIRTEEN and your mom has no business changing your diapers if you are perfectly capable yourself. The diapers will keep your bed from getting wet and ruining the mattress and you, or mom, won’t have to be washing sheets as often. Use water resistant sheets as well. Another fact is that if you are a bedwetter, the chances are good that one of your parents used to be a bedwetter, or one of their siblings, as it often runs in families. You can’t help it and punishing or embarassing you into "stopping" is not the answer.
Good luck, honey. There is noting wrong with you. Sometimes our bodies and brains get our signals crossed. It’s not fair, but you CAN be in control and get help! Get to it!
Sadly, the other respondents are correct about it being abusive for your mom to be changing your diapers. She is humiliating you and it is hurting you emotionally. It can damage you more than the actual bedwetting to be treated like that. Perhaps she was the original bedwetter in her family and SHE was treated like that. You need to call your doctor and tell him/her what is going on. The school nurse would be another trusted source. I would talk to mom first, calmly and firmly…no whining… and if she doesn’t listen then unfortunately it will be time for you to talk to someone else. Otherwise you can be emotionally disturbed by this experience for the rest of your life, instead of treating it like the common, but treatable, inconvenience that it is.
Hang in there!!!!
Carmen S on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
There are such things as water proof bed pads that can be washed everyday or when needed. that would be more appropriate for a 13 year old. Also, adult diapers are okay, but you can change them yourself – your mom doing it is quite inappropriate. You are an adolescent, and just because you have this problem doesn’t mean you should be treated like a baby.
Are you under any unusual stress? That can cause bed wetting. Also, seizures can cause you to wet the bed, that’s probably not the case, but do talk to your doctor again to be sure. Lots of other things can make that happen, but hopefully you can resolve this problem soon.
Hispanic Hippie on August 12, 2010 at 12:54 pm
WTF I guess u could wear Tampons
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